The Art of Asking, Or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help

The Art of Asking, Or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help

Book - 2014
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Rock singer, crowdfunding pioneer, and TED speaker Amanda Palmer knows all about asking. Performing as a living statue in a wedding dress, she wordlessly asked thousands of passersby for their dollars. When she became a singer, songwriter, and musician, she was not afraid to ask her audience to support her as she surfed the crowd (and slept on their couches while touring). And when she left her record label to strike out on her own, she asked her fans to support her in making an album, leading to the world's most successful music Kickstarter. Even while Amanda is both celebrated and attacked for her fearlessness in asking for help, she finds that there are important things she cannot ask for -- as a musician, as a friend, and as a wife. She learns that she isn't alone in this, that so many people are afraid to ask for help, and it paralyzes their lives and relationships. In this groundbreaking book, she explores these barriers in her own life and in the lives of those around her, and discovers the emotional, philosophical, and practical aspects of the art of asking.
Publisher: New York :, Grand Central Publishing,, [2014]
Edition: First edition
ISBN: 9781455533770
Branch Call Number: B Palmer 2014
Characteristics: viii, 336 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm


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Aug 15, 2018

This is one of my all time favorite books and one I recommend to almost anyone. Even if you don't like Amanda Palmer's music or creative aspirations the message in the book of acceptance and community is inspiring. Her humor and candid voice keeps her outlandish stories completely down to earth and relatable.

Oct 26, 2017

Very inspiring woman. I was drawn to the title as I too have difficulty asking for myself; asking for others not a problem.
I now want to track down Amanda's music and art, it sounds intriguing. Picked up a book of short stories by Neil Gaiman, read a couple of the stories so far.... interesting, makes me think and I like that.

Aug 11, 2017

Unexpectedly inspiring. It was recommended to me so I read it. Amazing! It IS hard for me to ask for help and this has opened my eyes a little wider.

Dec 04, 2016

Audiobook has some music. Strange type of book to class. Definitely more "autobiography" than anything , but with the intent of letting the reader develop his or her own understanding from the author's (very personal) insight. Open and honest to a degree I can't describe.

Nov 12, 2016

I did not expect this book to make me cry. It did. it happened more than once. I really felt like Amanda Palmer let us into her life with this book. I cried. I laughed.Amanda Palmer has always had a great relationship with her fans and I feel like this book continued that.Amanda treats her fans like they are her friends and this felt like she was having an intimate conversation with all her friends about her life. About the choices she's made and how she got where she is now. The stories she tells in this are so interesting to me. I was so pulled into every single one.

The stories she tells in this are so interesting to me.The writing was wonderful as well. I was so pulled into every single one. The entire message about asking for things that we need. Being able to take help when it's offered. It was really beautiful and necessary for a lot of people. Including me. If you haven't seen Amanda's TED Talk then you should go watch it. Then pick up this book.

Jul 12, 2016

This is the most inspiring book I've ever read, hands down. I recommend it to everyone whenever I can. Amanda Palmer is a firework.

Jun 23, 2016

I found this book to be entertaining and enlightening. It dealt with why people struggle sometimes to ask for the things we need and followed Amanda Palmer's incredibly intriguing life story up until now. I've never actually heard of Amanda Palmer until reading this book but she made me care about her story, her music, and her career and made me want to be apart of her tight-knit family of a fan base. Amanda Palmer is a caring, enthusiastic, soulful, "mostly" shameless, independent woman who knows how to ask for the things she needs. This book shows her readers exactly who she is and that she is also human, despite being a huge rock star. Delving into how hard it is to be an artist and how people may not take her type of profession seriously, she shows resilience and passion for what she does.

Jun 23, 2016

I loved this audiobook! Amanda is so full of love! Bursting with love!!!

Jun 20, 2016

Amanda Palmer is a successful singer/songwriter and performance artist who has made a name for herself largely on her own terms. A friend of mine introduced me to her music a few years back and I was impressed by the stage presence, but didn't listen to the music much after that.

This book stood out on the shelf - perhaps because I enjoy reading stories from quirky personalities, and partially because the back cover promised it would be a title that dealt with something I have a great deal of trouble with/great need to do more of - asking.

Palmer's writing could be smoother, but she has some incredible stories - such as her time as a living statue, where she performed not just for the money but for the give and take of human connection that the job provided.

We are introduced to the heroes and villains in her life. Her trusted confidant Anthony - a Mr. Miyagi type, the record company, Neil Gaiman, friends and fans.

It is easy to imagine, on first glance, that due to the outrageously open style of her performance and manner of speaking, that she doesn't care what anyone else thinks. However, this book shows a woman with incredible emotional depth and a huge heart, who has the same struggles with insecurity and the "fraud police" that any other artist/person does.

It took a few chapters to really get into the book, but once I got into it, I binge read it until the end.

Apparently she did a TED talk too - so perhaps something to check out if you check out this book too. :)

Mar 21, 2016

Some inspiring stories about humanity. In case it concerns you, warning about her use of irreverent religious references and coarse language. Based on online readers' comments, I'm glad I listened to the audiobook, I do not think I would have enjoyed reading the book.

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Jun 23, 2016

"Sometimes people will prove to be untrustworthy. When that happens, the correct response is not: 'Fuck! I knew I couldn't trust anybody!' The correct response is: 'Some people just suck.' Moving right along."


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